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Re: help

by Cursed » February 9th, 2008, 11:05 am

also if you dont get it done, the police will arrest you for atempting it... atleast where i live

Re: help

by mmmcrak » February 9th, 2008, 10:48 am

who are u and Y do u want to kill urself killin ur self is not going to solve anything all it is going to do is make family and friends sad

Re: help

by fl00d3d » February 9th, 2008, 9:39 am

Or just go talk to a psychiatrist. One who can legally prescribe medication for your illness. Depression *IS* an illness.

Re: help

by sadistik » January 11th, 2008, 2:33 pm

yay 2x post.. I also forgot to mention, to be honest I had help from a pill -_- for legal purposes of the forums I say: dont take drugs.. but if you must, do not abuse it.. don't even say 1 a day wont get you addicted, it can.. being addicted to a drug is a terrible path, and will only add more problems..

Re: help

by sadistik » January 11th, 2008, 2:02 pm

that was directed toward the different guest -_- I figured it was "a" who just forgot to put that..

To a: post what's up with you, and we'll try to analyze that situation as well if you wish

Re: help

by fl00d3d » January 11th, 2008, 1:44 pm

It's hard to tell who is who, when you're all posting as 'guest'. But that's fine ... posting anonymously is kinda the point of this section.

In regards to those who think killing themselves will somehow help the situation:
  1. Your primary primitive instinct is survival. Going against that shows extreme weakness.
  2. Regardless of whether or not you care about other people, they care about you. Even if people act like they don't care ... they do.
  3. No problem is worth killing yourself over. First of all, it wouldn't solve the problem so the problem would still be there. Second, it's a selfish and cowardly way out of dealing with issues.
It is in our nature to "fight or flight". In every thing that we do, we decide subconsciously to either stand up and fight through the situation ... or we decide to flee from it so that it doesn't hurt us. Suicide goes against that because you're neither fighting the situation nor fleeing from danger.

I'm telling you, it's not worth it. But I can say that until I'm blue in the face and unless you truely believe that it won't help.

Just understand that people DO care. And even though I've never personally met most of you guys ... and may never meet you ... I know I care about all of you guys. I feel like second parent sometimes. If you need someone to talk to, send me a PM and we'll talk about it. No problem is too large or too hard to work through.

Re: help

by guest » January 11th, 2008, 12:57 pm

That seemed directed at me, i'll make my own thread if i need help, i was just trying to help 'a'

Re: help

by sadistik » January 11th, 2008, 12:39 pm

well that definately helped, because I have been through the same thing with a few differences.. I've been out of school, so I didn't have to see my ex afterward.. I tried to be her friend at least afterward.. keep a good friendship, but then after her heartless rejections and finding she was messing around with other dudes while we were going out.. I completely shut myself from the world, and started meditating.. my thoughts would always focus on her, and I'd always blame myself for the breakup.. that's just my nature.. But I realized she was the problem, not me.. So my meditation consisted of telling myself, she's the one that f**ked up, not me.. and eventually I got over it.. It does take a while, as you continue on, you will find that the pain does lessen.. btw.. get rid of your friend.. you're probibly getting extremely jealous of him, and that wont help.. I mean who wouldn't

I know I kept having dreams about my ex, and that really messed with my head.. Some would be bad dreams, which would make me feel even more betrayed, and some would be dreams where her and I would still be together, and I'd wake up incredibly depressed knowing that I couldn't have her again..

After Realizing what a complete two faced b*tch my ex was, I started getting over her very quickly.. My "undying" love for her, has now become a severe hatred.. What I had started doing was simply go for walks after a few months of the breakup.. it's a change from the videogame world, and it helps you clear your head while in a more relaxing setting (usually).. So the point of this paragraph, isn't necessarily g otake a walk.. It's that you need a healthy change of pace in your life.. get a new hobby.. seriously, it does help.

Also may I ask if you're still in hs? I assume you are, I think I read you still have to see her in class.. probibly wont help at all.. but I'm going to say it anyway.. highschool relationships rarely ever last.. I found that out the hard way.. If you are going to get into a highschool relationship.. try your best not to let yourself fall in love.. That may sound rediculous, I may not have listened either if I heard this back then.. the reason for this, is people change a lot after Highschool.. that's what happened to my ex-fiance.. she figured she could have any guy she wanted, so i wasn't good enough.. Even though I tried absolutely everything to make her as happy as possible.. it wasn't good enough, because I didn't know being a slut made her happy after her change..

The meaning of life?? that has been asked for centuries, and I've never heard an answer.. But I have some advice that hopefully will help you.. My dad told me this while I was still in school, and I thought it was the stupidest thing I've ever heard, but now I know it's pretty true.. Attitude plays a big role in your life.. I'm dead serious.. Try to consistantly have a good attitude, starting with that new hobby you have to find, and expand it.. My hobby (other that walking) was working out.. which reaped it's own benefits.. there's another saying "you feel how you see yourself" I started working out and I'd look in the mirror, and see myself losing weight, and getting more fit.. that was a huge morale boost for me..

Well, your girlfriend dumped you then 2 weeks later is already going out with someone else.. that's her bad.. you feel like it's your fault.. no.. here's what happened (as long as you've been honest from the beginning with her, no fakeness in personality) She assumed you were something you weren't, so she started going out with you... After she found out you weren't "exactly what she wanted," she dumped you.. that's her being selfish, and pretty dumb.. what people dont realize is there is no such thing as the "perfect love" it's a concept that came from fairy tales, and people blew out of perspective, making movies, writing books, etc. and so ppl think they can get the perfect match.. that especially effects girls with all of their romance novels.. This is her being too picky, not your fault.. the first step is for you to realize that.. (unless you did something bad you didn't mention, and she found out.. then that is your fault)

Hopefully this will inspire you at least a little.. If you have any questions, post again.. I'll try to help you out.. so to sum this up here's what I suggest:

1.) You have to convince yourself it isn't your fault, it's hers
2.) Get rid of your friend she's going out with..
3.) Try very hard to inprove your attitude of your life as a whole.. What I did was realize how strong I was becoming when I realized I truly didn't need her
4.) get a new healthy hobby, seeing good results from something you do, will get you excited about your hobbie (taking some thought away from this situation) and help you accomplish your "good attitude goal" (#3)

Re: help

by guest » January 11th, 2008, 11:24 am

Well, I've thought about commiting suicide myself over the past few weeks to be honest. I only really spoke to Eski about it, but my girlfriend dumped me shortly before New Year, it really f*cked me up and then she went out with my best friend. Not getting into the details too much, I really was going to do it, but the main things that stopped me were my pets, and even when that doesn't work, I log onto the forums, or IRC, and everything is so light and easy, you just have to cheer up. What I'm saying is, try not to get bogged down, all this week while I've been at school I've had to see her, and I really do feel lower than I ever have before, but luckily that is the one place where I can't do something stupid. Now when I was really f*cked up, I thought that there really isn't a point to the World and life, it seemed like the only thing that was keeping me happy was Sho, and that now I could see that there was no point in anything, we're just animals, we made it to the top of the food chain but so what? And for what? To rape the world? What makes our existence more meaningful than say, an ant's? Then when I was talking to my friends, I was a little happier, and I thought 'hey, if I can cheer up slightly, even from how badly I was feeling before, this is the point.' I also thought about how happy I had been with Sho, how great love had felt, how wonderful my life had been during that period, and I thought about how that must happen again, and I had a whole life ahead of me in which to find that feeling again. That, my friend, is the point, so keep slogging through the shite you have to put up with, and experience love, and other great feelings, that is the point.

I hope this helped.

Re: help

by sadistik » January 10th, 2008, 11:41 pm

RRkiller wrote:But why don't you? You didn't just wake up one morning and go 'I don't care about life'. Really, what happened? This is all anonymous, no one knows who you are, we are just trying to help.But for us to help you, we need to know whats wrong so we know how.
yes.. some details are definately needed, go as in depth as you're comfortable doing. but if you tell us nothing about your situation, it give us nothing to work with, which doesn't help u much

Re: help

by Grimes [3rd ID] » January 10th, 2008, 10:46 pm

a wrote:i dont care about my family or my friends... when i think about being gone it doenst both me at all. i dont care about heaven or hell none of it matters i dont care
But why don't you? You didn't just wake up one morning and go 'I don't care about life'. Really, what happened? This is all anonymous, no one knows who you are, we are just trying to help.But for us to help you, we need to know whats wrong so we know how.

Re: help

by a » January 10th, 2008, 10:31 pm

i dont care about my family or my friends... when i think about being gone it doenst both me at all. i dont care about heaven or hell none of it matters i dont care

Re: help

by Grimes [3rd ID] » January 10th, 2008, 6:42 pm

20 days isn't much of a bump tbh

Re: help

by medici » January 10th, 2008, 6:15 pm

Major bump, it's probably all sorted out now.
Spoiler: show
Or they're already dead 1234((

Re: help

by sadistik » January 10th, 2008, 5:25 pm

and If you are religious.. you probibly believe in hell.. to tell you the truth.. that is the ONLY thing that stopped me from killing myself.. I do believe there's a heaven and hell, an hell is worse than anything you can expierience here.. So endure it here, and keep your chin up as much as you can, and you can pull through..

Anyway.. what makes you say you want to kill yourself?? or is the situation already over?? nobody can help you if we don't know what you're dealing with.

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