by sadistik » January 11th, 2008, 12:39 pm
well that definately helped, because I have been through the same thing with a few differences.. I've been out of school, so I didn't have to see my ex afterward.. I tried to be her friend at least afterward.. keep a good friendship, but then after her heartless rejections and finding she was messing around with other dudes while we were going out.. I completely shut myself from the world, and started meditating.. my thoughts would always focus on her, and I'd always blame myself for the breakup.. that's just my nature.. But I realized she was the problem, not me.. So my meditation consisted of telling myself, she's the one that f**ked up, not me.. and eventually I got over it.. It does take a while, as you continue on, you will find that the pain does lessen.. btw.. get rid of your friend.. you're probibly getting extremely jealous of him, and that wont help.. I mean who wouldn't
I know I kept having dreams about my ex, and that really messed with my head.. Some would be bad dreams, which would make me feel even more betrayed, and some would be dreams where her and I would still be together, and I'd wake up incredibly depressed knowing that I couldn't have her again..
After Realizing what a complete two faced b*tch my ex was, I started getting over her very quickly.. My "undying" love for her, has now become a severe hatred.. What I had started doing was simply go for walks after a few months of the breakup.. it's a change from the videogame world, and it helps you clear your head while in a more relaxing setting (usually).. So the point of this paragraph, isn't necessarily g otake a walk.. It's that you need a healthy change of pace in your life.. get a new hobby.. seriously, it does help.
Also may I ask if you're still in hs? I assume you are, I think I read you still have to see her in class.. probibly wont help at all.. but I'm going to say it anyway.. highschool relationships rarely ever last.. I found that out the hard way.. If you are going to get into a highschool relationship.. try your best not to let yourself fall in love.. That may sound rediculous, I may not have listened either if I heard this back then.. the reason for this, is people change a lot after Highschool.. that's what happened to my ex-fiance.. she figured she could have any guy she wanted, so i wasn't good enough.. Even though I tried absolutely everything to make her as happy as possible.. it wasn't good enough, because I didn't know being a slut made her happy after her change..
The meaning of life?? that has been asked for centuries, and I've never heard an answer.. But I have some advice that hopefully will help you.. My dad told me this while I was still in school, and I thought it was the stupidest thing I've ever heard, but now I know it's pretty true.. Attitude plays a big role in your life.. I'm dead serious.. Try to consistantly have a good attitude, starting with that new hobby you have to find, and expand it.. My hobby (other that walking) was working out.. which reaped it's own benefits.. there's another saying "you feel how you see yourself" I started working out and I'd look in the mirror, and see myself losing weight, and getting more fit.. that was a huge morale boost for me..
Well, your girlfriend dumped you then 2 weeks later is already going out with someone else.. that's her bad.. you feel like it's your fault.. no.. here's what happened (as long as you've been honest from the beginning with her, no fakeness in personality) She assumed you were something you weren't, so she started going out with you... After she found out you weren't "exactly what she wanted," she dumped you.. that's her being selfish, and pretty dumb.. what people dont realize is there is no such thing as the "perfect love" it's a concept that came from fairy tales, and people blew out of perspective, making movies, writing books, etc. and so ppl think they can get the perfect match.. that especially effects girls with all of their romance novels.. This is her being too picky, not your fault.. the first step is for you to realize that.. (unless you did something bad you didn't mention, and she found out.. then that is your fault)
Hopefully this will inspire you at least a little.. If you have any questions, post again.. I'll try to help you out.. so to sum this up here's what I suggest:
1.) You have to convince yourself it isn't your fault, it's hers
2.) Get rid of your friend she's going out with..
3.) Try very hard to inprove your attitude of your life as a whole.. What I did was realize how strong I was becoming when I realized I truly didn't need her
4.) get a new healthy hobby, seeing good results from something you do, will get you excited about your hobbie (taking some thought away from this situation) and help you accomplish your "good attitude goal" (#3)
[color=#0040FF]well that definately helped, because I have been through the same thing with a few differences.. I've been out of school, so I didn't have to see my ex afterward.. I tried to be her friend at least afterward.. keep a good friendship, but then after her heartless rejections and finding she was messing around with other dudes while we were going out.. I completely shut myself from the world, and started meditating.. my thoughts would always focus on her, and I'd always blame myself for the breakup.. that's just my nature.. But I realized she was the problem, not me.. So my meditation consisted of telling myself, she's the one that f**ked up, not me.. and eventually I got over it.. It does take a while, as you continue on, you will find that the pain does lessen.. btw.. get rid of your friend.. you're probibly getting extremely jealous of him, and that wont help.. I mean who wouldn't[/color]
[color=#00BF40]I know I kept having dreams about my ex, and that really messed with my head.. Some would be bad dreams, which would make me feel even more betrayed, and some would be dreams where her and I would still be together, and I'd wake up incredibly depressed knowing that I couldn't have her again..[/color]
After Realizing what a complete two faced b*tch my ex was, I started getting over her very quickly.. My "undying" love for her, has now become a severe hatred.. What I had started doing was simply go for walks after a few months of the breakup.. it's a change from the videogame world, and it helps you clear your head while in a more relaxing setting (usually).. So the point of this paragraph, isn't necessarily g otake a walk.. It's that you need a healthy change of pace in your life.. get a new hobby.. seriously, it does help.
[color=#FF4000]Also may I ask if you're still in hs? I assume you are, I think I read you still have to see her in class.. probibly wont help at all.. but I'm going to say it anyway.. highschool relationships rarely ever last.. I found that out the hard way.. If you are going to get into a highschool relationship.. try your best not to let yourself fall in love.. That may sound rediculous, I may not have listened either if I heard this back then.. the reason for this, is [u]people change a lot [/u]after Highschool.. that's what happened to my ex-fiance.. she figured she could have any guy she wanted, so i wasn't good enough.. Even though I tried absolutely everything to make her as happy as possible.. it wasn't good enough, because I didn't know being a slut made her happy after her change..[/color]
[color=#FFBF40]The meaning of life?? that has been asked for centuries, and I've never heard an answer.. But I have some advice that hopefully will help you.. My dad told me this while I was still in school, and I thought it was the stupidest thing I've ever heard, but now I know it's pretty true.. [b][i]Attitude plays a big role in your life[/i][/b].. I'm dead serious.. Try to consistantly have a good attitude, starting with that new hobby you have to find, and expand it.. My hobby (other that walking) was working out.. which reaped it's own benefits.. there's another saying "you feel how you see yourself" I started working out and I'd look in the mirror, and see myself losing weight, and getting more fit.. that was a huge morale boost for me.. [/color]
[color=#FFFF00]Well, your girlfriend dumped you then 2 weeks later is already going out with someone else.. that's her bad.. you feel like it's your fault.. no.. here's what happened (as long as you've been honest from the beginning with her, no fakeness in personality) She assumed you were something you weren't, so she started going out with you... After she found out you weren't "exactly what she wanted," she dumped you.. that's her being selfish, and pretty dumb.. what people dont realize is there is no such thing as the "perfect love" it's a concept that came from fairy tales, and people blew out of perspective, making movies, writing books, etc. and so ppl think they can get the perfect match.. that especially effects girls with all of their romance novels.. This is her being too picky, not your fault.. the first step is for you to realize that.. (unless you did something bad you didn't mention, and she found out.. then that is your fault)[/color]
[color=#FF0000]Hopefully this will inspire you at least a little.. If you have any questions, post again.. I'll try to help you out.. so to sum this up here's what I suggest:
1.) You have to convince yourself it isn't your fault, it's hers
2.) Get rid of your friend she's going out with..
3.) Try very hard to inprove your attitude of your life as a whole.. What I did was realize how strong I was becoming when I realized I truly didn't need her
4.) get a new healthy hobby, seeing good results from something you do, will get you excited about your hobbie (taking some thought away from this situation) and help you accomplish your "good attitude goal" (#3)[/color]