troubles

[meh]

i need some advice
Whats better way to ask a girl out?

Be yourself or besomeone else???

i am having alot of trouble

[Grimes [3rd ID]]

Be yourself of course. If you try to be someone else, itll always come back to you in some way. Like in the movie Mr. & Mrs. Smith, they had lied, and it came back to them. Always be yourself gl btw

[fl00d3d]

I'd have to agree with Killer. There is always a way to distort the truth so that some things are exagerated, but I wouldn't reccomend it. If you be yourself, then you'll find happiness by just being yourself, and you don't have to put on a show for anyone. That way if the relationship progresses for six months ... a year ... five years ... then you don't have to worry about "changing who you are". Now if there are some things about you that you know for a fact she wont like, then you could always try to work on them (rather than lying about them).

[MetalVixen]

Nobody can keep an act up for long...the truth ALWAYS comes out, no matter what it is.

Be yourself...as long as you're not some rude, psychotic mass murderer.
Girls like a guy with confidence and a sense of humour. So think of your best personality trait and play on that. And if a chick rejects you...which happens to us all at some point, be respectful and kind, say "Thanks anyway" and atleast you'll have a good reputation for being a mature guy.

[Meh1]

It kinda hard i really really like this girl if she turns me down i feel like i be depressed and sh*t and i can never find the courage to do it. when ever i picture her i picture us laughing or doing something fun.

how should i ask her out???

[Grimes [3rd ID]]

Ahhhh... Now THAT my friend is the question that haunts most men of all ages. Imo, like i said, be yourself. Just be polite, maybe start slow, like persay if she likes soccer, invite her to a game, or if she likes movies, take her to a movie. Just kinda match it up, somtimes its a yes, somtimes its a no. Just gotta be ready and stay prepared. And dont freak out if its a yes >.>

"Hey <name>, whats up?"
"Nothin, just hangin around."
"cool.. so, you doing anything <night> ?"
"<response>"

^ your everday date request.. im not reccomending it, but its somthin to look at. And dont like go planning, just kinda say whats on your mind. < tis the only way to find the right girl. Good luck

[fl00d3d]

How old are you? How old is she?

[Nightma12]

How old are you? How old is she?

24, and 12

[fl00d3d]

How old are you? How old is she?

24, and 12

This is meant to be a serious forum (And topic) -_-

[Crazyme99]

Fine it is me

i am 15 she 14 turning 15

i already asked her

she said no but if she gets to know me and like me she go out with me

[Grimes [3rd ID]]

How old are you? How old is she?

24, and 12

Tried that once, it doesnt work, unless its a virgin <3



But yeah, just give it time. Hell ive been hanging with these 2 girls for what, 3 years now? every month it just gets better and better, somtime this year or next ill ask to go to dance or somthin >.>

[fl00d3d]

Well, it just seems like she doesn't know who the hell you are.

Being so young, you'll have two options at this point:

(1) Be friends - Spend a lot of time together and get to know eachother. Hang out at malls, movies, with other people as a group, etc. The benefits of being friends is probably greater than anything romantic at this point in your life, but if this 'friendship' goes too far (not a bad thing) then you'll realistically ruin your chances of being romantic because girls usually see romance and friendship as two separate things; though it is definitely possible to have both in a relationship - I'm moreso speaking about your current age group, though.

(2) Be romantic - Take her out to dinner. Talk during dinner, get comfortable, get some laughs in (don't try to be a jokester, just subtle humor), get to know what she likes to do with her free time and what she wants to do with her life (if she even knows at that age, probably not). The point of option #2 is that you're spending time alone, but in a public place. Which affords her security (since there are people everywhere) yet privacy (since there aren't other friends around taking attention off of you).

My advice: Get to know her better, get the approval of her friends (get them to like you), and then stop the "friendship" at that point - then go into the romantic part. After the "romance" has gone on for a month or two you should naturally develop your own sense of "friendship" ... it will just be a more private and personal type of friendship than the normal "lets all go hang out together as a group" type of friendship. Anyway, that's my 2 cents

[Crazyme99]

Well i know all her friends pretty good
Thanks for ur advice( i would love more if anyone else had any thoughts)

I think i got it though

[medici]

well what fl00d said pretty much covers it...

when a girl sas they want to get to know you better, either their too wimpy to say they dont really want to go out with you (not worth it in that case), or you just need to hang around them more, show them how great you are

and show off those bulging muscles of yours... (j/k for god's sake dont act like mowgli)

[Crazyme99]

jezz
lol

Nice comment though appericate the thought