will using her destroy her?

[welshboyo84]

um where to start i have just come out of a two year relationship, because i wented to travell and she wanted to settle down, we split up six weeks ago and i moved back home. Now i have met this new girl who really likes me and likes spending time with me, but i dont get that feeling of butterflys when im around her. The company and s3x is great but deep down im using her. So what should i do tell her im just looking for fun or stay with her and see if things work? Could this mean i'm not over my ex aswell?

[medici]

I think this is a Tsucouch topic mate.

[welshboyo84]

ok can someone plz move it

[MetalVixen]

Moved.

[MetalVixen]

You're rebounding, dude. You want the physical aspect of what you had with your ex...so no, you're not yet over her. Break things off with this new chick, take some time to yourself and reflect on your old relationship. Think about what went wrong and take time to move on.

Once you start dating again, TRY not to have s3x again immediately. It won't feel as awesome and you won't get the butterflies like you mentioned.

Will your honesty destroy her? No. Will she be upset? Yes, but you're doing the right thing and she'll respect you down the road.
Simply say, "I'm sorry, but I'm still getting over my last relationship." Ask for some space and if you wanna go back to this chick, do so after you've gotten over your previous relationship.

[ompster]

I agree with MV, Rebound for sure! IF you want some rebound, rebound can be awesome. BUT with the right girl.. say a girl that does just want s3x ,ie one night stands. Both parties are happy. But yeh after you have had your erm.. fill? lol don't have a relationship for a while. Maybe you aren't over your ex? I'm guessing your not since you where with her for a fairly long time. It just takes time. And as for this girl. You gotta tell her i guess. That your not ready for another relationship yet, she will understand.

[Brian]

the only way a rebound can work for both parties involved is, when you inform her that this is strictly a sexual relationship. You might be surprised if you were to let a girl know that instead of dating...some actually say it's what they want too. Granted, these aren't girls you'd wwant to date for a long term for the most part, but the honesty is so comforting.

[welshboyo84]

after talking things through with her , she understands that it was a long term relationship, and that she is willing just to have a sexual relationship. which i was glad as i didnt reaLLY want to mess with her feelinggs. But now i can go out clubbing and if i dont pull i have her as plan B

[ompster]

nice man, soon you'll be gettin booty calls!

[sadistik]

that's freakin awesome.. congrats.. see, being honest pays off!!

[ecstasy]

Such a player, lol. Honestly, girls do that to guys all the time.

[fl00d3d]

nice man, soon you'll be gettin booty calls!

And a variety of sexually transmitted diseases. Congrats!

[welshboyo84]

you cant catch AIDS twice :p

[ecstasy]

you cant catch AIDS twice :p

That should be added to the "Quote of the Day," if we have it. ^^

[fl00d3d]

You can't catch AIDS ... ever. It develops from HIV. And anyone who knowingly spreads a STD such as AIDS should be charged with murder. That's how I see it, at least.