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Ever wondered whether or not you should tell your friends something personal because they might laugh, or reject you for it? Because that is kind of the situation I am having here. I am autistic, and until last year I never told anyone from school. I ended up telling a bunch of girl-friends about it, because I thought they might be more accepting, and for the first few days they were. However after those few days they stopped talking to me. Now I want to know if you think I should tell my guy-friends about it or not. I am personally very comfortable with it, but I don't quite know if my friends will be.
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if there your true friends they will be there no matter what. Personnaly i would tell them then you will see who your true friends are. :D
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I have a friend with Autism or Aspurges or something, no-one hates on him for it, no-one really cares tbh.
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Same here really, I know a few people with autistic tendencies and nobody thinks less of them for it, personally I think they deserve respect for dealing with it in a mature fashion.

I myself was diagnosed with minor autistic tendencies when I was younger, and while I have grown out of most of them a few are still noticeable in my behaviour at times, but it's not something I deliberately try to hide (and if it was this post just completely blew my cover :P )
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If they really are your friends, they won't leave you. Want a story?Ok!

When I was 3, my mom was tucking me in to bed, and I noticed I couldn't see anything out of it. I told my mom, and the next morning we went to the doc. Apparently, my retina had severely detached. Between then and when I was 11, I had 7 surgeries on my eyes. 7. My eyes were stable, but the summer of that same year, my eyes started hurting really bad. We went to the doctor, and she said it was an allergy that formed BLISTERS under my eyelid, and every time I blinked, they scratched my eye. How did this feel? Prick your eye with a pen 30 times in 60 seconds. Hard eh? Well I went through a whole summer of screaming and crying in pain. I still had friends come over and stuff to play, but periodically I would just scream. As if I had tourettes or something. By the end of the summer, we figured out how to fix it, but still...

The point is, my friends didn't care about my eyes, ever. They knew I couldn't see very well at all, they also knew I had funny glasses. But my FRIENDS didn't laugh. Now, some retards did.. but they weren't ever my friends. So, tell your friends. Honestly, there is nothing to laugh about autism. Whats so funny about it? :/
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lots of kids at my highschool has it no one hates them or anything. They just treat them normally no one even cares really
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it all depends on you.. i mean if your really close with them.. you never really know someone and what they will do. i had a lot of bad things happen wit my friends cause i told them something personal.. but i learned from that and i dont really tell anything personal anymore to my friends only like about a few.. good luck with everything.. i have a story to... one of my best friends Amanda is very diabetic shes on the pump but she never really talked about it cause when she did a lot of ppl made fun of her ( i hate that cause i think there is no reason for that) untill one day she had the courage to tell me... i was fine with it because my dad is also diabetic.. im not the kind of person to make fun cause i have problems on my own.. i think if you tell your good freinds there will be no problem...
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Quite honestly: if there isn't a specific need to disclose that sort of information, then why bother?

Obviously you are concerned about how your friends would feel about this, otherwise you wouldn't have created a topic about it. So why bother telling them about it if its going to cause drama that you don't have right now? If you think it will bring you some satisfaction, and you think that they'll accept you, then by all means do it.

It's ultimately up to you. But I agree with what the others have said; and that is: if they're your friends then it shouldn't matter.
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Post by Mentally-Hilarious »

@RRKiller: I'm sorry to hear you had, what I guess must have been, such a traumatic experience, but I bet it has helped you to become the awesome person you are today :D

@Danpaul88: It's nice to see a fellow Un-NT here, thanks for your contribution :)

@Fl00d3d + Everyone else: Thank you very much for your help, School has just started up again (Final year ftw!) and I'll try telling some of my closer friends tomorrow. :D

@ All: Sorry if my pseudo-name offended anyone, I just picked it from a rather funny episode I was watching of Family Guy.
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could I be enlightened me to what autism actually is? I've seen stuff on tv, but you know how tv distorts things, or (in the case of Family Guy) tries to make things that arent funny. I've heard of it, but am confused on what the symptoms actually are.

Gl with your friends tomorrow.. With a problem, it's hard to tell people, but once you've overcome the fear, you will realize you're better off that way.. Even if you are with a few less friends afterward, It just show that they weren't very good friends afterall, and you'll be better off without the fake friends.. With the friends that remain your loyal friends, treasure those friendships for they are real, and have survived a test. Again Best of luck. ;)
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Post by Mentally-Hilarious »

It varies between people, with different symptoms and such, but here are some wiki entries I have read a couple of times.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Autism
(Autism in general)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asperger_syndrome
(My specific 'Diffability' [Diffability is a term my shrink uses to explain that its only a difference and not a disability)
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[ Woops, accidentally hit submit. ]

Also, I hate to say it, but I chickened out, I kept remembering that last time I told people they all stopped talking to me. I'll try again next week, or maybe through msn today.
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If your going to tell them I would recommend against doing it over MSN, this is the sort of thing you need to do face to face or not at all really. Anyway, however you decide to do it, good luck with it, but don't push yourself into telling people if your not ready.
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Personally I dont get why people would just stop talking to you because of this (I saw the wiki entry), but since it's happened to you before, I guess it happens.. I don't really see why though.. Especially since apparently it's not obvious by looking at you, and you have to tell people your situation before they know. But yes paople are messed up that way.. However it goes, GL to you.
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Post by Mentally-Hilarious »

SUPER_MEGA_NECRO_BUMP

Ok, so, told them, it was all good, lots of support and all is good.... or was....

I liked one of the girls I told, I have liked her since we were both in grade 7. I hinted at it for years, I talked to her friends about it (mutual friends), they told her and finally I told her straight out. (grade 10) She told me she liked me too, but had to go away for the holidays (3 weeks) and that when she got back we would take things further. But when she got back she had just "decided" that she didn't like me anymore, that she didn't want to go out or anything anymore, so on and so forth.

Anyway, the next year (grade 11) we hung out a lot as friends and it seemed she was starting to like me again. Not wanting to ruin that I didn't ask her out again, not until I was sure she really did like me. All seemed pretty good until the start of last year (grade 12) when I came to school and found out that she had gone to Japan for an exchange trip, and that she wouldn't be back until the new year. (now) and that she asked that no one tells me.

The problem is that for the past year, I haven't been able to get over her about her. I literally haven't gone a day without thinking about her. For the past year I have been so depressed that I haven't been able to do anything like normal. I haven't slept properly, my grades had dropped, I even stopped playing games (ren, wow, halo etc..). It has gotten so bad that I have had to go into special schooling programs where I had to negotiate the amount of work I would attempt, I had take anti-depressants and see shrinks. In the end I was pretty much doing no work and the school put me into school-based training for a trade. Right now I am feeling pretty low... the meds im on aren't helping much, and I have been thinking quite a bit about suicide (don't worry, not going to happen). Since she is going to be back in the country soon, I don't know if I should try to talk to her, or just run and hide. The main problem is even thought it has been nearly a year and a half, I can't stop thinking about this girl and I don't know what I am supposed to do.

HELP ME!!!!! :dash:
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